Dating very good looking men
“Everyone has their own internal radar they use when deciding who to go out with,” says Manhattan-based relationship expert and Licensed Clinical Social Worker Rachel Sussman.“If someone is too good-looking, too rich, too successful—it might make the average person uncomfortable.”" data-reactid="19"This reflects the findings from a study conducted by OKCupid, which found that while women judge the majority of men to be less than average in the looks department (harsh, ladies), they’re actually more likely to message those okay-looking guys than their studly counterparts.
My older brother’s nickname is "Handsome Jack" and whenever my girlfriends would come to my house after school they’d always find an excuse to go and hang out with him.“And I’m like, Jesse, no, he’s too handsome.”Say what? Lots of women cop to second-guessing the viability of a potential mate based on his stratospheric good looks.While Vergara’s hesitation to date Maganiello might be confusing (has she looked in a mirror lately? Caitlin, an attractive and successful woman who works in finance, explains it like this:“Extremely good looking guys are, in my opinion, rarer than beautiful women.I’ve thought girls were too good looking to approach, or dismissed the idea of potentially dating someone who I considered too hot for me, but that would never be the criteria by which I’d turn someone down.”Women could benefit from adopting a similar attitude (or, start searching e Bay, like O’Connell, for that confidence.) “It’s okay to assess someone [as too good-looking for you],” says Sussman. ” It’s important to ask yourself these questions because while plenty of extremely good-looking people are also kind and humble, you can’t rule out the possibility that it’s something about this person’s personality that’s making you feel lesser-than.
“But I wouldn’t automatically turn them down.” Sussman likens it to getting an exciting new job that you don’t quite feel qualified for: you might feel extra nervous on the first day, but you should probably still show up. However, if your hesitation has more to do with your own insecurity and fears, than Sussman says: go for it.
The great Courtney Love once said, "You don’t have to be beautiful to fuck whoever you want," and it’s true.