Define dating exclusively
To give a personal example: my wife and I had our DTR conversation the third time she came to visit…
because we were spending weeks at a time together whenever she came to see me.
Many people are less likely to stick around, without if you get the sense that you’re not necessarily on the same page.
It’s better to be honest about how you’re feeling than to hide it and end up hurt or disappointing one another because you had different ideas about the nature of your relationship.
One hard and fast rule though: if you haven’t had the exclusivity talk, you otherwise you risk getting hurt, even though you both may have had the best of intentions.
Side note: These guidelines are assuming that the frequency you’re seeing each other or talking is a mutual decision.
And I don’t know about you, but I’d rather someone not commit to me at all than make some half-assed agreement to commit to only part of me.
Ever want to make someone incredibly defensive right off the bat?In fact, if you’ve been finding that you’re seeing each other more and more often lately, that’s often a sign that you’re both becoming more and more interested in one another and invested in your relationship together – a sign that you should consider discussing just where you think the relationship is going. If you’re getting together twice or three times a week on your lunch break, but not spending extended periods of time together, then the DTR conversation can be pushed back in the relationship timeline.